Jay Shetty on Rejection, Resilience, and the Real Path to Success
At the Side x Side Conference, I had the opportunity to hear Jay Shetty speak—and it was one of those rare talks that stays with you long after you’ve left the room. A former monk turned bestselling author of the book "Think Like A Monk" and motivational speaker, Shetty shared insights that felt both grounding and transformative.
His message? Success doesn’t come from perfection—it comes from rejection, resilience, and consistent habits that align with your values. That’s especially true in high-performance industries like real estate, where mindset isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity.
“Expect Rejection, Be Surprised by Success”
“You don’t become resilient without rejection. You don’t become a high performer without stress.”
That line hit hard. Shetty reminded us that rejection isn’t something to be avoided—it’s part of the process. The imagined version of who we think we need to be often creates friction with the reality of who we are. But when you show up, again and again, despite rejection or setbacks, that’s where the growth happens.
In California’s fast-paced luxury market, the ability to stay grounded while navigating uncertainty is a superpower—and one that clients and entrepreneurs alike must cultivate.
The 4 Daily Success Habits for California Entrepreneurs and Luxury Professionals
Jay Shetty outlined four habits that fuel performance, clarity, and emotional resilience—daily rituals that can elevate both your personal life and your professional results. These are the same habits many high-performing buyers, sellers, and business owners are already using to stay focused and intentional in California’s competitive real estate landscape.
1. Thankfulness
Gratitude isn’t just a mindset—it’s a form of mental clarity. When gratitude takes up space in your mind, you operate from abundance instead of fear. For top-producing agents, entrepreneurs, and high-end clients, this shift in perspective can shape everything from negotiation strategies to daily motivation.
2. Insight & Inspiration
Think of your mindset like a refrigerator. If it’s empty, you go refill it. The most successful people don’t wait for inspiration—they go out and find it. Whether it’s reading, listening, or just stepping away from the noise, insight is something you intentionally build. And repetition creates reward—staying consistent is what turns insight into long-term success.
3. Mindfulness
Jay framed meditation as a meeting with yourself—one you wouldn’t cancel. For anyone navigating high-stakes decisions (like buying or selling a luxury home), mindfulness creates a sense of control and clarity. Whether it’s a quiet walk, a journaling session, or breathwork, mindfulness helps you align with your goals before you act.
4. Movement
Movement isn’t just physical—it’s energetic momentum. Shetty encouraged making it collaborative and competitive—because when movement feels fun and rewarding, it becomes sustainable. Whether it’s a quick run along the coast or yoga before showings, movement fuels every other habit.
Understand People to Connect With Them
Jay also introduced a powerful communication tool: the four core personality types. If you want to lead well, sell well, or simply connect better, you need to speak to people in their emotional language.
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High-Energy Influencers: Fast-talking, idea-driven, outgoing.
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Reserved & Task-Oriented: Detail-focused, data-driven, strategic.
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Reserved & People-Oriented: Loyal, empathetic, grounded.
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Expressive & Story-Driven: Emotional connectors, natural storytellers.
The takeaway? When you understand how others operate, you can guide conversations, build trust faster, and create deeper client relationships—whether you're navigating a real estate transaction or just showing up as a leader.
My Biggest Takeaway
So what stayed with me long after the conference ended?
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Rejection is essential. It builds the resilience required to lead, sell, and grow.
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Stock your mental fridge. Inspiration doesn’t show up on its own—go find it.
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Small habits create big change. Daily rituals are the foundation of success.
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Your superpower is being fully yourself. In a world that tries to shape you into something else, authenticity stands out.
Why This Matters at Coastline 840
At Coastline 840, we believe success is about more than closing deals—it’s about creating a life and business rooted in intention. Jay Shetty’s message is a reminder that the habits we build today shape the legacy we leave tomorrow.
Whether you're a buyer, a seller, or someone simply seeking clarity in your next chapter, these mindset shifts can transform how you move through the world—and throughout the California real estate market.
Ready to move forward with purpose? Let’s talk about your next chapter. Contact us.
Want More of Jay Shetty? Listen to his podcasts, like we do!
